Below you will find an overview of hyperlinks to useful web resources. We have divided the links into different categories, you can easily view each category by clicking on the title.
Stichting Félice: making a sad farewell a little more beautiful
Parents who have lost their child are suddenly confronted with having to organise a funeral. Something which you will not even have considered ever having to do as a parent. The costs associated with a funeral are very high. Many young parents do not have funeral insurance, or cannot afford to pay for a funeral out of pocket. And yet, at the same time, organising a beautiful farewell can be extremely helpful in the grieving process. Stichting Félice wants to help with these issues, and thereby make this sad day a little bit more beautiful.
Make A Memory Foundation photographs
Make a Memory provides photography sessions for seriously or terminally ill and deceased children from the age of 23 weeks (during pregnancy) up to and including the age of seventeen, organised via care professionals at the request of parents.
Stichting Still (Still Foundation)
Offers a free photo diary to families of a seriously ill child or parent.
In addition, Still provides photography of sick, dying or deceased babies from the 2nd trimester of pregnancy onwards.
Stichting Phéron (Phéron Foundation)
Provides information on the website. The Phéron Memory Box helps care professionals in the hospital to provide comforting aftercare and offers parents the opportunity to make tangible memories in a gentle, intuitive way. The Phéron Foundation works in cooperation with 25 hospitals.
Stichting Hanne (Hanne Foundation)
Offers an information booklet, and has developed a memory box containing beautiful memorial objects. Stichting Hanne is already working with 7 hospitals to provide the box to parents. If you represent a hospital or care institution that also wants to take part, please send an e-mail to: firstname.lastname@example.org
Stille Levens (‘Still Lifes’)
Resource centre for infant death with ample and useful resources regarding the loss of a baby.
Supports parents and families after a stillbirth or
or perinatal death.
Ouders en zo! (‘Parents etcetera!’)
Marion Middendorp is the founder of Ouders en zo! and provides a lot of information on her website about saying goodbye to a baby.
ima farewell care
has been in operation since 2014 and specialises in guiding parents in welcoming and saying goodbye to their (newborn) baby. IMA has farewell guides working in the regions Amsterdam, Utrecht, Rotterdam, Veluwe, Brabant, Groningen, Friesland and Drenthe, thereby operating nationwide.
Telephone number: 085-877 08 09 (24/7)
has been operating in the Brabant, Zeeland, Zuid-Gelderland and Noord-Limburg regions since October 2017.
Telephone number: 0416-23 43 63 (24/7)
has been working throughout Flanders since June 2019
Telephone number: +32 499323049
Kitty van Dijk has been working in the Rotterdam region since 2010 to provide baby and children’s funeral services.
Telephone number: 06-12620598
Zacht Kinderuitvaarten (‘Children’s Funerals’)
Chris Beekman and Annefleur Visscher work jointly in the regions North Holland, South Holland, Utrecht and Flevoland. They organise children’s funerals and have the miniature hearse.
Telephone number: 020 – 6955530
Funeral Care Merel Westermann
Since 2007 in the Amsterdam region, has previous experience working in maternity care.
Telephone number: 06 – 4498 0703
Buitengewoon Afscheid (‘Extraordinary Farewell’), Karen Admiral
Telephone number: 06 26942752
Charon Funeral Care, Gijsje Teunissen, Noord Holland region
Telephone number: 06 – 21516130
De Wending (‘The Turn’), Utrecht region
Telephone number: 0345 52 44 71
Iris Funeral Care, Gelderland region
Telephone number: 0543 55 00 93
Jeannet Admiral, Drenthe Region
Telephone number: 06 – 39 45 11 88
Carla van der Burg Children’s Funerals, Groningen region
Telephone number: 06 – 12 50 97 76
Erna Jansen Funeral Care, Friesland region
Telephone number: 06 – 30 38 95 94
Marea Funeral Care, Zeeland region
Telephone number: 06 – 40 79 65 13
Valé Funeral Care, Noord Holland, Flevoland and Gelderland regions
Telephone number: 06 – 40 95 25 84
Memento Funeral Care, Overijssel region. André and Nelleke Groenink organise the funeral of babies and children with the utmost care and attention.
Telephone number: 06-43035499
You are always free to choose a funeral home that suits you, even if you have funeral insurance with another organization. The option of a specialist, in the field of infant and child loss, can be an extra addition.
Cooperative of skilled funeral photographers in the Netherlands
ESRA takes silhouette photos and family reunion photos
It is not permitted to share or distribute the pictures of this album without our express permission.
Afscheid in beeld from Lois Nieuwenhoven
Freshmotion from Vincent Smit (he made this film of Puck)
Uitvaartfilm from Ben van der Goes
Uitvaartvideo.net by Freddy Abendanon and Lizzy de Wilde. Lizzy lost her four year old son Justin and knows better than anyone how important it is to capture everything properly.
TweelingEngeltjes (facebook) en TweelingEngeltjes (website)
Hiske Kuilman coaching
Altijd een kind tekort
Opa’s en oma’s van vlinderkindjes
On these sites you can sign up for private FB-groups about whether or not to continue a desired pregnancy.
Below you will find organizations/platforms that are there to help you with your loss.
Vlinderkindcafé (butterfly child café)
Biennial (every two years) meeting group for parents of deceased children, regardless of the length of pregnancy.
Lieve Engeltjes (Dear Angels)
An online support group for anyone who has to deal with the death of a (young) child. Communication is via e-mail.
OOK (Parents Deceased Child)
A nationwide self-help organization for and by parents of a deceased child that offers recognition, comfort and perspective.
Praten over verlies (‘talking about loss’)
Praten over verlies is a cooperation between funeral organization Yarden and volunteer organization Humanitas. It offers free and anonymous chat with a volunteer and the possibility to ask questions regarding issues of loss and grief.
Kusje in de wind (‘kiss in the wind’)
From the book Kusje in de wind, written by Irene van Wesel after the death of her son Lieve*, an online community has emerged that supports and develops various projects for those suffering. Earlier this year the book of poetry Kindje in mijn hart was published, especially for Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, in which all the given children were mentioned. Throughout 2015, 33 parents have been active in the project ‘Liever bij mij…’ to tell about their own child and the way in which loss is intertwined with their lives. Liever bij mij… tells, just like Kusje in the wind, not only about mourning, grief and struggles but also about taking a child into your heart, the love and the pride. If you want to read more about the community and publications, take a look here.
The Contact Group Pregnancy Termination (CZB) is a peer support group for parents who have terminated a desired pregnancy of a baby with a serious disorder.
Each year on the 2nd Sunday in December, World Lights Day
is held. On this day, at 19.00 hours, people all over the world light candles in memory of deceased children. It doesn’t matter how old the child was or how long ago it was. After all, your child remains your child! Forever in your heart and thoughts!
is an initiative of Make a Memory Foundation; a platform for anyone who misses someone. On this website we help you find your way when you have to say goodbye or have already had to say goodbye to your loved one. Initially Troost.nl
focuses on the loss of (grand)children and siblings. This will be expanded in the future. Troost.nl wants to become a guide in case of loss and loss. We help you find what you need.
Grandparents of butterfly children: Facebook group to share love and sorrow. The grief of grandparents is different from that of your children. It can be something that is difficult to share with other people if they have not had the same experience.
1001lichtjes (‘1001 lights’)
Offers products and services around parting and mourning.
De Troostboom (‘The consolation tree’ )
Offers mourning support to children (Den Bosch region).
Loss-app.nl (iPad only)
Loss helps to find others and is a place for recognition and sharing experiences, insights and feelings. A place to comfort, support and inspire each other. Loss offers support through simple exercises and insights. These increase your resilience and help you to make you stronger. Loss helps you to keep an eye on your mood and makes sure you sound the alarm on time if you can’t get out of it yourself.
On our book list you will find several books and movies for yourself or to read to your other children. The loss of a brother or sister is also very drastic for them and these books might help to talk about it and give it a place.
Anne-Marie Vermaat and her daughter Hubertien van Heek can help you learn to deal with the consequences of your loss: at home and at work. In individual conversations (loss treatments) they pay attention to your loss and can explain what is going on.
The mission of Huber10 Coaching & Consulting is to help people enjoy their work again after loss.
Janet is a psychologist and grief counsellor and counsels people who experience various forms of loss, including pregnancy loss. She also brings her own experience in this.
Psyche en zwangerschap (‘Psyche and pregnancy’)
Psychological help in case of loss around pregnancy and birth.
Learning to live with a hole in your heart, tips and coaching to get your life back on track after losing your baby.
As Life & Loss coach, she helps parents who have lost their baby before, during or shortly after birth. “Together we turn the pain of loss and the endless love for your baby into strength to move on with life.”
Brenda Tiggeler offers specialized grief and loss counselling and EFT relationship therapy for parents who have lost a child.
Miskraam Begeleiding Nederland
Miriam van Kreij accompanies women who once or more had a miscarriage. Or who lost their child in another way during pregnancy. For some it was a few months ago, for others years ago. The counselling allows them to continue with confidence in their family and in their work.
Marieke Viskil is a mourning and loss counsellor for children and families, with special attention for loss during pregnancy or shortly after birth. Everyone deals with loss in his or her own way and at his or her own pace. Together we look at what is needed, so that you can continue with new courage. You are welcome with everything there is.
Nina Rang focuses her practice mainly on women in the phase of life when wanting to start a (desired) family. She is also the initiator and developer of a number of online coaching programs for fertility problems and miscarriage processing.
Jeannette de Kruijk supports mothers who lost a baby during or after pregnancy. She herself is an experience expert and can help you with your mourning work, even if the loss is years ago. The love for your baby never passes and she likes to show you the beautiful sides of life again, so that you can do what makes you happy.
Bright Blue Coaching en training
Jeanne van Mierlo helpt en ondersteunt bij verlies in welke vorm dan ook.
Organizes the following free meetings in cooperation with the Amsterdam West Midwifery Association:
Out of expectation; loss of an early pregnancy.
Loss of a child in a late pregnancy or around birth.
Butterfly Kiss: A website full of comfort and love for losing a child. For butterfly parents, butterfly children, rainbow children and their loved ones. You will find blogs by founder Anja Dalhuisen, poems, books, postcards and various consolation articles. To take care of your grief, when you can’t take care of your child anymore…
Unicorns and Angels: The loss of a child during or shortly after pregnancy. It is almost impossible to describe how terribly sad that is… Heartbroken, empty, angry; as a parent, after the death of your child(ren), you find yourself in a huge whirlwind of emotions. Hopefully the loving gifts in this webshop of Renée Brouwer can help you a little with coping with the great loss.
How grief changes over time
‘You don’t get over grief, you just learn to have it as part of your life.’
This analogy of how we deal with bereavement is absolutely spot on…
Coen Verbraak talks to people who have experienced what it is like to lose someone.
Manu Keirse: no longer believes in processing grief; you don’t process grief, you survive your loss and you live with it.
Fatima Elatik: talks about the loss of her baby.
Marguerite de Beaufort: lost two of her five children and a third child became seriously ill. Nevertheless, her confidence in life remains high.
Recht uit het hart
Ellemijn Veldhuijzen van Zanten is an actress and columnist. She is the mother of six children, three of whom died shortly after birth. A story about love, motherhood and proud mourning.
The story of Denize and Filip, who are ready for the birth of their first child. The crib, the clothes and the stroller have been carefully selected and are ready for use. One last checkup with the midwife and their baby can come. Fate strikes out of nowhere. The midwife does not hear the baby’s heartbeat during this check-up and the young parents end up in a nightmare.
Two-hour radio interview with Manu Keirse (04/06/2017). The links to listen back to the radio fragment are at the bottom of the page.
Is the first video based on Kathy Beckers-Mansell’s book “Grieving after Losing Your Baby.
” The book and the videos are part of the project “Grieving for the loss of a baby”, which was set up by the Foundation “Books of Significance”. Kathy Beckers-Mansell is a mourning therapist through her practice “MetJari” in Zoetermeer.
Is the second video, based on Kathy Beckers-Mansell’s book “Grieving After Losing Your Baby.
Is the third video, based on Kathy Beckers-Mansell’s book “Grieving after Losing Your Baby.
Seeing with the heart
Is het vierde filmpje, gebaseerd op het boek “Rouwen na het verlies van je baby” van Kathy Beckers-Mansell.
is the fifth movie based on Kathy Beckers-Mansell’s book “Grieving after Losing Your Baby”