Below you will find an overview of links to useful pages. We have made a division into different categories, you can easily view them by clicking on the title.

The Never Beyond Foundation hopes to be able to help parents, brothers and sisters of a deceased child with the loss, among other things by writing their story in memory of the deceased child. In addition, we organize meetings and events and fellow sufferers can contact us for a listening ear. Because a child who has died is never over.
The Never Past Foundation is a partner of Steunpunt Nova.

Félice Foundation: Parents who have lost their child are suddenly confronted with organizing a farewell. Something you will never have thought about as a parent. The costs involved in a funeral are very high. Many young parents do not have funeral insurance or are unable to pay for a funeral. And that while saying goodbye in a beautiful way can help enormously in the grieving process. The Félice Foundation wants to help with this and make it possible to make the sad day a little more beautiful. The Félice Foundation is a partner of Steunpunt Nova.

Isabel Foundation: Parents who lose their child will always carry the pain of the loss with them. This pain is not alleviated by time and every year there are several days when the loss is extra present, especially on these days such as the birthday and death, Father’s and Mother’s Day, the birthdays of the parents and the holidays we want to support the parents. On these days, appropriate gifts are sent, such as a butterfly, flowers, candles for the anniversary of death, the most beautiful star, cakes to celebrate the anniversary, but also balloons, a beautiful poem or a power pouch.
There is a sign-up freeze here at this time.

At the request of parents and through the mediation of healthcare professionals, the Make a Memory Foundation photographs seriously ill, terminal and deceased children between the ages of 23 weeks (pregnancy) and seventeen years.

The Still Foundation offers a free photo report to families of a seriously ill child or parent. In addition, she takes care of the photography of sick, dying or deceased babies from the 2nd trimester of pregnancy.

The Phéron Foundation provides information on the website. The Phéron Memory Box helps healthcare professionals in the hospital to provide pleasant aftercare and offers parents the opportunity to make tangible memories in a gentle, intuitive way. The Phéron Foundation works together with 25 hospitals.

The Hanne Foundation offers an information booklet, and has developed a memory box containing beautiful memory products. The Hanne Foundation already works with 7 hospitals that give the box to parents. If you would like to join, please send an e-mail to:

The Forest of Embracing is looking for planting locations in the Netherlands to create memorial forests where a memorial tree can be planted for deceased children. In 2018, the first forest was planted in ‘t Wildrijk in the municipality of Schagen, and in 2020 the second forest in the Geestmerloo Nature Park in the municipality of Alkmaar. We can also help parents with the wish to plant a memorial tree for their deceased child if that is not easy financially.

Quiet Lives: Knowledge center for infant mortality with a lot of solid information about the loss of a baby.

Stillborn: Supporting parents and families after stillbirth or perinatal death.

Parents and all that!: Marion Middendorp is the founder of Oudersenzo! and also provides a lot of information about saying goodbye to a baby on her website.

Since 2014, IMA Farewell Care has been working with professional valedictorian caregivers who have experience with the loss of a baby in their own way. Ima afscheidszorg was the first specialized baby funeral company in the Netherlands. They work nationwide.

Phone: 085-877 08 09

Since 2017, Houvast funeral care has been working with professional farewell supervisors who are also experts by experience. They work in the central and southern part of the Netherlands.

Phone: 0416-23 43 63

Never Forget has been working throughout Flanders since June 2019.

Phone: +32 499323049

Jade Children’s Funeral, Westland region
Jacky and Kitty will guide you, step by step, during this difficult period. They give you all the space you need to do as much as possible yourself. With their knowledge and experience, they can support you with an intimate farewell at home or an atmospheric farewell in a special place. With attention to every detail and in consultation, they can take care of your worries.
Phone: 06 392 696 23

Kleine Ster, Rotterdam region
Kleine Ster is a funeral company that specializes in funerals for babies from 16 weeks of pregnancy, children and young people, but can also take care of funerals for adults.
The funeral director is Kitty van Dijk.
Phone: 06-12620598
Watch Kitty here in the broadcast Doodgewoon (2017)

Soft Children’s Funerals, region Noord-Holland, Zuid-Holland, Utrecht and Flevoland.
Chris Beekman takes care of children’s funerals and owns the mini hearse.
Phone number: 020 – 6955530

Babyster Funeral Care, region Noord-Holland and Zuid-Holland
They guide parents in saying goodbye to their child. Specialized support of a baby who has died during pregnancy, just after delivery and of young children.
Phone number: 085-4010859

Berber Pasveer Funeral Care, Friesland region
Losing a child as a parent is the worst thing you can experience. Suddenly, you are faced with a difficult and emotional task to arrange the farewell of your child, while you are intensely sad. There’s so much coming at you. Berber can and wants to help you with this and guides you from the beginning to the end.
Phone: 06 15966090

Funeral guidance Merel Westermann, Amsterdam region
Before that he worked in maternity care.
Telephone number: 06 – 44 98 07 03

Liaison Funeral Guidance, Noord-Holland Noord region
Telephone number: 06 – 12 36 22 56

De Wending, Utrecht region

De Wending supervises funerals of children and young people and has an eye for things that really matter. We not only listen to the head, but also to the heart.
Phone: 0345 52 44 71

Moonlight children’s funeral of Els den Otter, South Holland region
Telephone number: 06 26 07 06 26

Knuf en Ko, region North and South Holland, Utrecht
If everything is suddenly different, if your world stops spinning, then nothing makes sense at all. The last thing you want right now is to make arrangements for your child’s funeral. Desley and Sanneke understand this and they want to be there for you and help you in every possible way. Lovingly, at your pace and professionally.
Phone: 085 004 34 03

Jeannet Admiraal, Drenthe region
Telephone number: 06 – 39 45 11 88

Carla van der Burg children’s funerals, Groningen
Phone number: 06 – 12 50 97 76

Erna Jansen Funeral Care, Friesland
Telephone number: 06 – 30 38 95 94

Valé Funeral Care, region of Noord-Holland, Flevoland and Gelderland

Telephone number: 06 – 40 95 25 84

Marea Funeral Guidance, Zeeland region
Telephone number: 06 – 40 79 65 13

Agnes Boer, Overijssel
Agnes herself lost her daughter Anouk three days after her birth. She supports, guides and helps you with (possibly the delivery and) the funeral of your baby.
Phone: 06-52324020

Memento Funeral Care, Overijssel region.
André and Nelleke Groenink attentively supervise the funeral of babies and children.
Phone: 06-43035499

You are always free to choose a funeral home that suits you, even if you have funeral insurance with another organization. The choice of a specialist, in the field of infant and child mortality, can be an additional addition.

HQ Thanatopraxia

Afuitex: Maike and Niels are specialized in embalming babies, both internal and external embalming

André Lagendijk

Read more about internal and external embalming here.

6 weeks of pregnancy, the largest until after 34 weeks. A set consists of a wrap and a cloth made of the same fabrics to keep as a memory. The sets are supplied to the affiliated hospitals, but can also be requested by parents if they give birth in a hospital that is not affiliated. All this completely free of charge thanks to all the donations we receive.

Small butterfly
Star Child
Mon petit
Neo clothes
Premature box
Little Binky

Make a Memory
Still Foundation
Farewell moments Cooperative of skilled valedictorian photographers in the Netherlands
Shadow photo Dasja takes shadow photos and family reunion photos
Photo booklet about the water method. It is not allowed to distribute the photos of this album, other than after our explicit permission.

Photo booklet of anonymized birth announcement cards
Baby funeral cards
Studio Bitterzoet
Cotton Paper design & letterpress
Ticket2go Fastcards
Made for Moments
Studio Vol Talent is managed by Marije Kremers. The address for custom-designed birth and funeral announcements. Design and production are made in a socially responsible way.

Farewell in pictures of Lois Nieuwenhoven
Freshmotion by Vincent Smit (he made this film from Puck)
Funeral film by Ben van der Goes of Freddy Abendanon and Lizzy de Wilde. Lizzy lost her four-year-old son Justin and knows better than anyone how important it is to capture everything properly

My Bird: Melinda van Veen, as the proud mother of Lisa*, makes colorful figurines for the grave. You can come up with your own ideas, but you can also help create your own.
Monumentalista: Ine makes what you want. Talk to her and she will make a beautiful design
Bosch Glass Art
The Dutch Memorials
Michel Kuipers
Eijgelaar Natural Stone
Glass memorials

My little bear: In 2020, Carlijn unexpectedly lost her son Sieb at the end of the pregnancy. In her search for a beautiful urn, she came to the conclusion that there was little to her taste. As far as she was concerned, the way in which the urn was delivered could also be a lot more loving. That’s why she started My Little Bear. Urns that are made with love, but that are also packed and sent with care.

The malleable stone
Memories to keep
Saskia de Rooy ceramics
Hella and Elke
Ash destination
Michel Kuipers
The urn shop
Urn shop
Silent Stones
Urn Heaven

You can also have an urn made from a 3D image of your belly or your baby.
Gravida makes 3D scans of/with your baby or your pregnant belly. This scan can later be used to make a 3D print with space for the ashes.
Take a look at their page that they have created especially for this purpose.
View the price list of the baby statues here.
View the price list of the belly statues here.

Stillborn Dads: After the stillbirth of his daughter Sofie, Jesse Kroon has set up an international community for fathers in a similar situation.

The forgotten father: Platform in the Netherlands and Belgium for men with a desire to have children and the emotions surrounding unfinished pregnancies and unwanted childlessness, founded by Bas Janse.

Not yet dads: Marijn Mennes started Not yets dads in 2019. What is it like for a man if your desire to have children is not fulfilled?

Below you will find organizations/platforms that are there to help you with your loss.

Sweet Angels Setting up an online peer contact group for anyone who has to deal with the death of a (young) child with peers. Contact is via e-mail.

OOK (Parents of deceased child) A national self-help organization by and for parents of a deceased child who offer recognition, comfort and perspective.

Different than expected: an online magazine for all pregnancies that come about differently, go differently or even end differently than expected. Here parents and loved ones will find reliable information from the editors, doctors, nurses, midwives, social workers and experts by experience about getting pregnant, high-risk pregnancies, babies who need just a little more care, psyche and loss.

Talking about loss Talking about loss is a collaboration between funeral organization Yarden and volunteer organization Humanitas. Chat for free and anonymously with a volunteer or ask questions about issues surrounding loss and grief.

Kiss in the wind The book Kiss in the Wind , written by Irene van Wesel after the death of her son Lieve*, has created an online community that supports and develops various projects for fellow sufferers. Earlier this year, for example, the poetry collection Kindje in mijn hart was published, especially for Father’s Day and Mother’s Day, in which all the children given up were mentioned. Throughout 2015, 33 parents have been active in the project ‘Rather with me…‘ to talk about their own child and the way in which the loss is intertwined with their lives. I’d rather be with me… tells, just like Kiss in the Wind, not only about mourning, grief and struggles, but also about taking a child into your heart, love and pride. If you want to read more about the community and publications, click here.

CZB Foundation The Termination of Pregnancy Contact Group (CZB) is a peer support group for parents who have terminated a desired pregnancy of a baby with a serious condition.

World Day of Lights Every 2nd Sunday in December, World Lights Day is held. On this day, people around the world light candles at 7:00 p.m. in memory of deceased children. It doesn’t matter how old the child was or how long ago it was. After all, your child is still your child! Forever in your heart and mind! is an initiative of the Make a Memory Foundation; a platform for anyone who misses someone. On this website we help you to find a way when you have to say goodbye or have already had to say goodbye to your loved one. Initially, focuses on the loss of (grand)children and brothers and sisters. We will expand this later. wants to become a guide in the event of loss and loss. We’ll help you find what you need.

Grandparents of butterfly children: Facebook group to share the love and sorrow. The grief of grandparents is different from that of your children. This is difficult to share with other people who have not been through the same thing.

1001lichtjes Offers products and services related to saying goodbye and mourning.

The Comfort Tree Provides grief support to children (Den Bosch region).

Apps Loss helps to find others and is a place for recognition and sharing experiences, insights and feelings. A place to comfort, support and inspire each other. Loss supports through simple exercises and insights. These increase your resilience and help you feel stronger. Loss helps you to keep an eye on your mood and ensures that you raise the alarm in time if you can’t figure it out yourself.

On our book list you will find several books and movies for yourself or to read to your other children. The loss of a brother or sister is also very drastic for them and these books may help to talk about it and give it a place.

The Baby Loss Academy for Parents
The whole world seems to go on as usual, while your life is at a standstill. You would like to continue, but at the same time you find it difficult to resume normal life. Everything has suddenly become so different. It seems like an impossible task, picking up your life. And yet you want to move on. To this end, we offer a unique online program:
Room for Mourning. Specially developed for parents who have lost a child during pregnancy or around the time of childbirth.

Hiske Kuilman is an ambassador for Steunpunt Nova.

Birth Counseling Utrecht (loss of birth)
Esli Jongen offers counseling immediately after hearing that your child has died or will die in the womb and loss counseling after the funeral or when questions and emotions arise later.
Esli is a certified doula, social scientist, humanistic spiritual director, teacher/trainer and body-oriented trauma therapist.
In the event of the death of a baby from or after 24 weeks, max. 5 calls will be reimbursed.
Read about it in this brochure.

Cindy Kirkilis-Kramer
worked as a midwife for eight years and went through two miscarriages herself. She underestimated its impact and went on with her life because that’s the way it was supposed to be. It wasn’t until she started actively working on her loss that she was able to better place this loss and move on with her life.
It is her mission to ensure that attention is paid to every loss in pregnancy. The impact is greater than people realize and what is accepted (by ourselves and our environment).

Love from Lauren- coaching: Willemien Holsappel guides women who have had to say goodbye to their child during pregnancy or shortly afterwards. Coaching for baby loss is not just grief counseling. Baby loss is sometimes invisible grief, lonely. Lack of understanding and well-intentioned comments. Unfortunately, Willemien hears it all too often. While the term of pregnancy says nothing about the loss and sadness. Nor whether your baby has lived alone in your dreams or a few hours or weeks after a birth.
Baby loss and its effect is different for each person and couple.
Losing a baby is an intense event in your life. Your life has been turned upside down and while everyone else goes on with his or her life, your world seems to have come to a standstill. The shine is off and you collapse or you continue; because of the other children or because that’s the way it’s supposed to be. Maybe you don’t dare to think about it, what else is coming loose.

Erlinde Weller: Many women experience less zest for life and less (self-)confidence after a miscarriage. They also often feel alone in this process and try to “just keep going.” Physical recovery usually takes care of itself. This does not apply to emotional recovery. Not coping properly with a miscarriage gets in the way of your zest for life, but also has consequences for a subsequent pregnancy. The loss of life has an impact on your life. That’s why it’s important to pay attention to the process of emotional processing. As a systemic and reiki coach, and as an expert by experience, it is my mission to guide you in this. Read more about me and my experience here .
To support you after early pregnancy loss and to allow you to relax more during this period, Erlinde offers a free relaxation.

Yolanda Castellón
As a Life & Loss coach, she helps parents who have lost their baby before, during or shortly after birth. “Together, we will turn the pain of loss and the endless love for your baby into the strength to move on with life.”

Huber10 Coaching The mission of Huber10 Coaching & Consulting is to help parents who lose a child to regain pleasure in their work.

Psyche and pregnancy
Psychological help for loss related to pregnancy and birth.

Every child matters
Brenda Tiggeler offers specialized grief and loss counseling and EFT couples therapy for parents who have lost a child.

Mourning around birth
Midwife and loss counsellor Yvonne Koster offers help as a professional and experience expert to parents who want to regain balance after losing their child. Attention is also paid to the experience and processing of childbirth.
A few times a year, parents, in a small group of fellow sufferers, can participate in a retreat day on the Veluwe to catch their breath, remember and heal. In June, this day is all about recovery and healing. In December, this day is dedicated to the “light” of World Light Day.

Miscarriage Counselling Netherlands
Miriam van Kreij counsels women who have had a miscarriage or more of them. Or who lost their child in some other way during pregnancy. For some it was a few months ago, for others years ago. Thanks to the guidance, they can continue with confidence in their family and in their work.

Practice Juniper
Marieke Viskil is a grief and loss counsellor for children and families with a special focus on loss during pregnancy or just after birth. Everyone deals with loss in their own way and at their own pace. Together we look at what is needed, so that you can continue with new courage. You are welcome with everything there is.

So much like a baby
In her practice, Nina Rang focuses mainly on women in the phase of life around starting a (desired) family. She is also the initiator and developer of a number of online coaching programs for fertility problems and miscarriage processing.

Butterfly Mom
Jeanette de Kruijk supports mothers who have lost a child during or after pregnancy. She herself is an expert by experience and can help with your grieving work, even if the loss was years ago. The love for your child never goes away and she likes to show you the beautiful sides of life again, so that you can do what makes you happy.

Vermaat and Boer
Anne-Marie Vermaat and her daughter Hubertien van Heek can help you learn to deal with the consequences of your loss: at home and at work. In individual conversations (loss treatments) they pay attention to your loss and can explain what is going on.

Janet Molewijk
Janet is a psychologist and grief therapist and counsellors people who have to deal with various forms of loss, including loss during pregnancy. She also brings her own experience to the table.

Bright Blue Coaching and training
Jeanne van Mierlo helps and supports loss in any form.


Deining bij verlies en rouw organizes the following free meetings in collaboration with the Midwifery Partnership Amsterdam West:
Out of expectation; loss of an early pregnancy (Download the leaflet here )
Loss of a child in late pregnancy or around birth (Download the leaflet here )
Loss of a child due to termination of a late pregnancy (Download the leaflet here )

Several times a year, Ella Midwives from The Hague offers space to reflect on the loss of your baby together with other women.
Grief and loss counselor, Annemieke Hillen is there to guide the conversations, answer questions and offer tools to deal with your loss.
You can register via 070-3606286 or email Annemieke:
These consultations are free of charge for Ella’s clients.

Practice Vivère
Cindy de Crom guides parents after loss in pregnancy in Bergen op Zoom and the surrounding area. Cindy also works as a nurse in the Mother Child Center of the Bravis hospital.

If your baby has died, it can be helpful and comforting to read books about it. It creates recognition. Below you will find a number of books, magazines and films. The loss of a brother or sister is also very drastic for children. The children’s books that read aloud may help to talk about it and to give meaning to the loss together with them.
You can order many of the books below via the link in the description or via Love from Lauren and Koffertje Troost. You will also find much more about grief and loss.

The help card that is about making memories says that you can read a book to your baby. Of course that can be any book, but Anja Dalhuisen has written a special book for it. It’s called Bye Sweetheart. She talks about it in this video. Thanks to donations from other parents who have lost a baby, we can offer the book free of charge to parents who want to read to their child in the days between the death and the funeral. Send an email with the name of your baby, the date of birth/death and the address where we can send the booklet to
If you want to read the book after saying goodbye to your child, you can order it via the website of Vlinderkusje.

Fill-in-the-blank books

Children ‘s books

Books for adults

Experience stories

Poetry collections



On this page you will find an overview of music that is appropriate for saying goodbye to a baby.

Steunpunt Nova also has its own spotify account with different playlists:
Nursery rhymes
Christian Songs

Butterfly Kiss: Anja Dalhuisen, founder of the comfort shop, gives words to pain and grief at the loss of a child or another loved one, and has incorporated these words and poems into various products of her brand Butterfly Kiss, such as postcards, comfort tiles, candles. You will also find all kinds of beautiful and sweet comfort gifts.

Love from Lauren: webshop and platform for remembrance products, comfort products, services and lectures in the field of grief in children and around children.
We, Elline and Willemien are nieces and friends and started Liefs van Lauren together in 2018. We noticed from our own experience how nice it is when there is one place where multiple products and services come together in the field of grief. No hours of searching on the internet, but quickly finding what you need. We have bundled our knowledge and experiences in the webshop and in workshops and lectures. In this way, we hope to be able to help parents, in addition to those involved and professionals, even better.
We don’t do this alone, but together with other entrepreneurs, coaches and brands. We believe in the power of working together to be a broad platform for you.

Little Lullabuys: Remembrance gifts for the child who is so missed. For support and comfort when things are difficult. Each gift has multiple symbolic layers and a message. There is no second copy of any gift.

I mourn from you: I mourn from you is a webshop in which we help people with a beautiful memento of their loved one. In our adjacent Pewter Foundry, we can often design by hand according to the customer’s wishes, cast in Tin. We supply small promotional gifts, special items or unique figurines according to the customer’s wishes.

Beautiful in ink: Jeanine Jonk, the mother of Robyn* and Kamilė* makes beautiful personalized drawings in ink with, for example, the birth flower or the zodiac sign of your child.
Instagram: @mooi_in_inkt

A Sam for you: Sam is a sand cuddly toy with the birth weight of your deceased baby. The cuddly toy is made exclusively for you. Because each Sam is individually handmade, you can influence the color combinations of your Sam. This way we can make a cuddly toy that suits you, your family and your baby. If you want, you can send your own fabric from a box, crib or basket that we will process in your own Sam.

Momma Bear: They tailor each Momma Bear for you, with the exact height and weight of the baby that is so missed.

Do you crochet: Ineke Riepma crochets premature dolls and memory dolls that have exactly the same height and weight as the child the doll symbolizes. Due to the weight, such a doll is carried just like a real baby, really very special to experience. People who have ordered such a doll find it very valuable to have, because they can then feel how small their child was. It makes the memory very tangible.
Instagram: @haakjewel

How griief changes over time ‘You don’t get over grief, you just learn to have it as part of your life.’ This analogy of how we deal with bereavement is absolutely spot on…
View the Dutch version here

Looking into the Soul, Part 1 and Part 2
Coen Verbraak talks to people who have experienced what it’s like to lose someone.

The amazement Manu Keirse: no longer believes in bereavement; You don’t process grief, you survive your loss and you live with it.

Fatima Elatik: talks about the loss of her baby, among other things.

Marguerite de Beaufort: lost two of her five children and a third child became seriously ill. Nevertheless, her faith in life remains high.

Straight from the heart Ellemijn Veldhuijzen van Zanten is an actress and columnist. She is the mother of six children, three of whom died shortly after birth. A story about love, motherhood and proud mourning.

‘It’s hard for me, too’: A letter from a grieving parent Stillbirth is still birth

After Inez The story of Denize and Filip, who are ready for the birth of their first child. The crib, the clothes and the stroller have been carefully selected and are ready for use. One last check-up with the midwife and their baby can come. Out of nowhere, disaster strikes. During this check-up, the midwife no longer hears the baby’s heartbeat and the young parents end up in a nightmare.

Radio 1 (Belgium) Touché Two-hour radio interview with Manu Keirse (04/06/2017). The links to listen to the radio fragment are at the bottom of the page.

“The Foundation of Love” Is the first video, based on the book “Grieving after the loss of your baby” by Kathy Beckers-Mansell. The book and the videos are part of the project “Mourning the loss of a baby”, which was set up by the “Foundation for Books of Meaning”. Kathy Beckers-Mansell is a grief therapist and has her practice “MetJari” in Zoetermeer.

“About Bearing Mourning” Is the second video, based on the book “Grieving after the loss of your baby” by Kathy Beckers-Mansell.

“The New Family” Is the third video, based on the book “Grieving after the loss of your baby” by Kathy Beckers-Mansell.

“Seeing with the Heart” Is the fourth video, based on the book “Grieving after the loss of your baby” by Kathy Beckers-Mansell.

“Drowning man and beachcomber” Is the fifth video, based on the book “Grieving after the loss of your baby” by Kathy Beckers-Mansell